Especially not haphazardly!!! Great word! great word picture! I can hardly even look at the answers to the other thread, let alone post my answer. I talked about it to T today, and he seemed to take the answer for granted. He said, if you're laughing together, and then he expanded on that, like, if you can't get up off the floor cos you're laughing so hard. but my recent interactions with the FOO have me doubting or drawing back or putting a wall between me and T. like i'm not allowed to be happy or healthy.