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Priorities. Does the job have health care and stuff like that? If it has good benefits, that's worth a fortune...... and to have such support from his boss.... hard to leave a comfy groove.
If hubby can cope better, and family basics are being covered, is more money necessary?

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I'm not sure if our family's basic needs can be covered with the decrease in pay. I think we need to move, but my hubby and I do not see eye to eye about moving. We live in one of the most expensive regions in the US.

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Could you consider this a breather on his part and look ahead to a time when he might be more willing to consider moving on, and refocus on you.

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hillbunnyb . . . that is the wise thing to do. In the meantime, I want to be able to discuss things like "how to get out of debt" and "how to save for a downpayment on a house" and "how to save for our son's college" and stuff like that without me feeling like I'm trying to change my hubby. I'm sure he feels a lot of pressure providing for us, a new baby and an emotionally unstable wife.

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Could you maybe get down with yoourself and make lists: get clear about what you feel more money would accomplish. Once it's down on paper, your head may calm down a little. Get creative and refocus away from what you can't do into the world of what you can do.

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This is exactly what we need to work on in marriage counseling. I'll try to organize my thoughts before next session.

Thank you again for you suggestions . . . ((((((hillbunnyb)))))))