Doing what one needs to do to survive growing up does not make one a *****.
Also, there is an exchange in every interaction - even if it is I enjoy how I feel when I am with you - each person gets something. That does not make one a *****.

Finally, the whole ***** thing irritates me as a feminist - it is a male construct to denigrate women who are providing something the man wants. There is no equally derogatory word for male prostitutes. Women who do what they can to survive and often provide for others, is not a shameful thing. (MKAC - you are not a *****, just a tangent on my part)