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Originally Posted by peaches100
One day on the phone, I said to my mom, "Hey, mom, remember when you used to go on business trips? I would cry so hard and not want you to go." She replied, "I don't think you cried that hard." I said, "Yes, I did! I really hated for you to go." Then she said, "Well, you never seemed to be interested in spending time with me or talking to me when i was home, so I didn't think it would matter."  |
Do you know why you brought this up to your mother? Were you expecting a particular response from her?
I think I mentioned this book before-- I will again just in case I'm confused-- "Will I ever be good enough?"
healing the daughters of narcissistic mothers
-- by Karyl McBride
this book helped me, along with therapy-- to get beyond the rejections of the mother. I don't talk to her about the past anymore-- we are just in the present together now, as I know she is NOT capable of being the mother I always needed.
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