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Originally Posted by pbutton
He ASKED for eye contact??? I would SO fail if T asked me to do that.
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yea. somehow mentioning it made me feel even more shameful.
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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Thanks for posting this - I hope to overcome the same problem with my T.
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Originally Posted by earthmamma
I'm Not sure asking for It helPs. For me The learning to lOok at people was damaged as a young baby. When I ask T if I'll ever be able too she replies " we don't know yet"
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that does help. Makes me feel less "responsible" for the inability to make eye contact.
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Originally Posted by SeaSalt
If this is a goal you have for yourself, please dont give up.
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Thanks seasalt.
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
I think there is something in the not looking that is about the fear of looking inward, more than anything. Feeling heard and understood can displace some of that fear.
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hmmmm...possibly.
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Wiki, do you know what you are afraid of? Can you discuss THAT with him, while not looking? Do you know what the shame is all about?
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Yes. I am afraid of seeing that disgust that I always saw in adults eyes as a kid. I guess I can discuss it, I seem to have been able to discuss more and more these days. The shame is just there, always has been. I have done absolutely horrid things.