Sorry I know that's redundant (DBT therapists) but I mean therapists who are trained in DBT specifically. I'm just starting DBT upon the recommendation of my ex-T who said he couldn't help me anymore and I needed to try something else.

I have an individual DBT therapist who is an LSCW (I don't know why that matters but it's the first time I've seen an LSCW as opposed to a PhD or PsyD or something) and this other dude who is the group leader (he's a PsyD). So far I think the individual counselor is "nice" which means unobjectionable and non-offensive to me but it's not like we have really "clicked" or connected on a personal level in any way. I only had one encounter with the other dude and it didn't go well.

Maybe because they're new and don't know me yet but I feel like they don't really care. And it's true. I mean how much can these strangers really care about me? I just met them. And so far there's not much to like about me. I know that sounds like low self-esteem but it's not quite. I'm not saying there aren't things to like about me; just that they haven't had much of a chance to see those things yet. They know that I'm a sex worker and I have an unusual "lifestyle" that I've had to explain quite a bit about and so far the main therapist is good at conveying a non-judgmental air but most people judge my lifestyle very negatively. One of the therapists I interviewed recently said that maybe that's why I'm depressed (because of my "lifestyle"). sigh....

They just both seem so detached. The one guy saying so cavalierly "so how exactly did you want to kill yourself?" during the intake session... yeah. sigh...

Anyway I guess my question is are DBT therapists more detached than other therapists maybe because they don't want to encourage drama or give into plays for sympathy and such? No matter how much pain I go in there with they're just all like "these are the coping skills" "be present" "describe the pain" blahblahblah