It is so sad when people aren't treated with unconditional love....which is what true love is......but I think that all too often that love that comes with a price is what leads to our poor skills we develop to deal with something that isn't the way it's created to be......& it's even worse when that love for a price continues into later years.....but when one learnes it to be that way when they are young, it's what one expects it to look like later on in life also......rather than not being willing to hold out for the unconditional love that is truly what marriage is to be based on.....all too often we either don't know anything else or we are willing to settle.