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Old May 25, 2012, 10:13 PM
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Originally Posted by autumnleaves View Post
Hi everyone,

I have a question for you all. What the experience like for you all when you told about your abuse for the first time or at different times? I know for me, it was SO, SO, SO hard the first time. It was like pulling teeth. It was also very, very painful. I told for the first time when I was 20. Now, I still have some trouble discussing it, but it's not as hard as it used to be. I recognize now that telling is a huge release for me, even telling now that I've told before. So, I guess it would be interesting to see:

1)How old were you when you first told?
2)Who did you tell?
3)What were your feelings/experiences?


1) I kind of told for the first time at 18, but was very limited. I told more of my story just a couple of months ago.
2)First person I told was my husband (we were engaged at the time) The person I told the most details to was my T.
3) Telling my husband was hard.. all I did was say I need to tell you something that something happened to me when I was a kid, I was taken advantage of and that was about it. He gave me a big hug and said no matter what he will always love me. I told T a couple of months ago. Mostly through a series of nods and yes and no answers, but was at least able to say that it was rape and a little more detail than what I told my husband. I felt a little better telling T, but there is still so much more to tell and I don't think I will actually feel like I told somebody until my full story is out.
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