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Originally Posted by ickydog2006
I think it's normal to use self harm partially for it's protection, it gives this feeling of power at times, like I can hurt myself more than you ever will be able to.
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Yes, a sense of control I would call it though rather than power. I've noticed it doesn't have to relate to when the other person is being actively threatening though, more overwhelming, so SH is like a big STOP sign! But obviously they don't see it so it must be for me!
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Originally Posted by Sannah
Of course you can keep parts of yourself hidden and safe. To do this you use good boundaries.  |
I'm not entirely sure what you mean by 'good' boundaries. I may be totally misunderstanding but I genuinely don't feel I have weak boundaries. I absolutely speak my mind, say no etc, if anything I would say one of my main problems is that my boundaries are too strong! I don't get close to people really and I am envious of those that so naturally and easily connect with others. I'm obviously scared of other people for some reason but I'm not sure if that is because of poor boundaries or something else entirely...
Either way, I guess at some point or another in the next week or so I will be in a situation where I will have to make the choice whether or not to SH. And I'm not sure whether I'm intellectualising all this too much because quite simply at the moment emotionally I obviously am looking for a 'get out of SH' guilt-free clause! I feel depressed!
