1)How old were you when you first told?- 21
2)Who did you tell?- best friend, then T
3)What were your feelings/experiences?- Telling the best friend was hard. I thought it would help if T wasn't the first I told, but friend didn't know how to respond, just got silence and "I'm sorry", which only made the shame worse. Telling T was totally different. He showed emotion I had never seen him display, and expressed things I had never felt toward the abuser. I am thankful though that his emotion was expressed at the abuser, and not at me. I would not be able to accept sympathy from my T. part of that not wanting to be the victim thing I have to work on