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Originally Posted by autumnleaves
Hi everyone,
I have a question for you all. What the experience like for you all when you told about your abuse for the first time or at different times? I know for me, it was SO, SO, SO hard the first time. It was like pulling teeth. It was also very, very painful. I told for the first time when I was 20. Now, I still have some trouble discussing it, but it's not as hard as it used to be. I recognize now that telling is a huge release for me, even telling now that I've told before. So, I guess it would be interesting to see:
1)How old were you when you first told?
2)Who did you tell?
3)What were your feelings/experiences?
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1 I was a child when I told
2 a teacher, the police, doctor, hospital doctors, nurses, my parents, social services, relatives, the court, therapists, psychiatrists, ...I told many due to my parents, the police and social services prosecuted my abuser on my behalf.
3. I dont remember much about those days. my teacher discovering me coming out of the mine shaft on her way to school, gave me a ride and discovered I was hurting the rest was a blur of activity, questions, surgery ...court. I went through the motions with lack of affect (no feelings about what was going on) I do remember over hearing someone say "when is she going to come back to us, from the way she talks you would think all this stuff is just another day in life, nothing unusual going on here" and a psychiatrist saying this reaction is PTSD, it is common with trauma/abuse cases to have lack of affect, in time she will heal enough to not only say the words but feel them too. just let her be, it takes time to heal what shes gone through."
my first sense of feeling was in the court room After I testified, I got down out of the chair, walked over to where my abuser was and let loose a string of foul words my parents didnt know I knew, directed at my abuser.
I have a great treatment team that I trust, so I rarely have trouble telling them my thoughts, feelings on what happened to me