I'm one of those who refuse to interact with my abusers. I have a lot of hate towards them, forgiveness being my weak point. I have had to talk to the abusers on occasion. I just build up a wall, but that doesn't mean I'm comfortable with them. I'm usually scared to death when I'm near them. If you feel the need to talk to your abuser, I guess forgiveness is key. I think it all depends on if you want a relationship them.