I just finished my second round of the dbt skills via group with a LCSW and see an individual T (PsyD) who utilizes a lot of dbt, and I haven't had a detached experience at all. In fact, both of these Ts are hands-down the most compassionate Ts I've ever worked with. I think your experience will totally depend on the T, the therapeutic relationship, and the client's needs. I tend to get miffed with the criticism of dbt that always pops up on this board, because it's been the most helpful therapy I've had. I've grown so much from fully participating in dbt.

Oh, I wanted to add that both of these Ts give personal examples of how they've used the skills in their own struggles, which I've found incredibly helpful (and a reminder to me that Ts are not as perfect and together as I think 24/7).