Leed - I thought there might have been some confusion. The thread is about my bf. I did add in a bit about a recent non-supportive encounter with a fledgling therapist.

As I went into, above, the ties are long-standing and involved.

You make a good point, though. I really can't take much more of being talked to as mean as he did. I am emotionally beat down now.

Many years ago, I definitely should have got out of this relationship. I should have got out of it after the first few weeks. As soon as I knew he drank heavily, I should have flown for all I was worth. Now, he is about the only person I have in the world. (I've always suffered from social avoidant tendencies. He was my first real romance.) If he gets mean again, I am apt to cut off seeing him for as long as I feel I need a rest.

He is ill and can't drive at present. He really is a dern fool if he doesn't make real nice for awhile. He is going to need the help of a friend, and he doesn't have much of that available to him.