MKAC... for me this slippery slope gets started every Holiday...so Memorial weekend is not different...

Sometimes...we do sacrafice what is best for ourselves... but not out of a way to bring on needless pain but as a way to honor another person...which is what you did by going to your Uncle's funeral...

I don't think all of this is about having a "public pity party"... I think you are angry... and justifiably so... But you are not going to be able to work through all of these family issues until you deal with the anger... I wish I had some advice on that but I'm still trying to figure that out for myself... I still have the anger for what things were...but somehow I have found a way to let go of the "wanting things to be different"..or "expecting things to be different" and that has let me be with my FOO on rare occasions when necessary without sliding down the slippery slope...

I'll be thinking about you and hoping you can force yourself to not let the FOO win and go do something fun with your kids...