((((farmergirl)))) Yah. it is a long stressful process. You want what you can't have. It's like waiting for your Ferrari to finally arrive from Italy. Your trophy car that you've waited so long and hard for.

And I agree. You are validated. It is their right to do whatever they want. it's a free country. yah, and my family is a bunch of megastars, doctors, lawyers, highly educated human beings with lots of contacts. So I do know the process had some "in's" for them.

As for their situation: it doesn't mean that I agree with it or have the same opinion of them that I used to. Nor do I have to like it.

Yes, I sent them congratulations and a baby gift because it's the proper thing to do. But I still have the right to feel the way that I do.

Thank you for adding another point of view.

(and I find it extremely interesting that being adopted myself you found absolutely NO compassion for my situation; yet came to the rescue of all the unwed, (most likely rural white trash, uneducated pregnant kids (sorry to tell you and burst your bubble but I learned first-hand that sometimes it's not as "agonizing" for the birth mother to give up their baby as you claim ) Perhaps instead of bragging about the good deeds you and your family did by taking these girls in and letting them decide what to do with their babies, your time would have been better spent, teaching birth control and or abstinence.

Just a thought.

Cheers,