That's so hard, Rose. I'm glad you still have 3 months.

It's not selfish at all to not want her to move away. It's a loss and you can be happy for her and sad for yourself at the same time.

I had a similar experience last fall - I had a T I loved and he told me in October that he was moving to another state in December. We talked a lot (really, a lot!) about his leaving in the last couple of months. I cried every time, but I was happy for him that he was going where he really wanted to be. I found a T who's even better for me and I hope you do, too!