Hi Friends...
My husband has Borderline Personality Disorder. We've been married for 8 years & I've been able to handle his BPD acting out in a patient and mature manner and keep it from exploding out of control, for 7 of those years. He did have 1 year of weekly therapy sessions with a therapist in 2004, but discontinued it because his therapist told him he had everything under control and no longer needed to go to therapy.

Mid-2005 and 2006, it was like his BPD exploded. He suddenly kicked me out of the house last summer
(ending our relationship), for no cause at all. After 3 months, he welcomed me back. Since then, he has 'suddenly' kicked me out.... 6 more times! Each time, with no cause from me.

We are back together again... trying it one more time, but I can tell it's only a matter of time before he gives me the boot.

We both love eachother very much, are very compatible, and other than his BPD episodes, we get along great.

I need advice! How can I get him to STOP throwing me out?! If I quietly talk to him, while he's on his rant... he tells me I have to move out... and if I calmly say I am not moving out... he'll call the police!

If I calmly tell him the police won't force me to leave our house, because I'm not doing anything wrong, and I'm calm and rational... he threatens to call 911 to tell them I need to go to the mental hospital!

That's not funny, because I know he did that to his 2nd wife (I'm his 3rd) and she's been in-patient about 5 times during their 10 year marriage!

I'm very good with relationship skills and very knowledgable with interacting with troubled people... I also have excellent control over myself and my emotions, even during times of distress...

so my question is....

How do I get him to stop kicking me out of our house?!

Respectfully ~ phoenix