I completely utterley agree with what Willow, Heidu and Mj have stated in their posts.
My abuser does not talk to me tho I know from my relatives that he is living a life he wish he wasn't. He doesn't have close friends, he has no contact with family members and he's in and out of relationships. To me, he will always be my cousin. But there is no way in this world that I could possibly help him 'recover' from the past. He has to do that on his own.

I believe your dad should do that as well. I also believe that he shouldn't be in a position that he could take advantage of others. It is NOT your fault that he may think these things. You should be able to live your life the way you please and say and do things as you wish. He brought this apon himself and its not up to you to dig him out.

Perhaps this is a little hard and I should probably be a little softer. But it just makes me angry because he's obviously playing a little manipulation game with you to still keep you within his control. If you wern't in his control, then you would have told the church what you know and you wouldn't be feeling so miserable perhaps!?

All in all. I wish you the best and hope the rest of the week is bearable. Your a strong person to be there in the first place.
Love and hugs
xo

It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves. C.G Jung