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I had a situation happen which completely embarrassed, humiliated, and angered me in front of my 15 yr old daughter and her boyfriend and I'm wondering if my feelings are valid or if I am taking this too far.
Here is the situation:
My daughter and her boyfriend came home and she asked me for some money to go to the carnival. I did not have any to give her so she wanted to ask her mother, who was in bed sleeping at the time. (I thought but she happened to be awake. She works night shift.) I told her not to bother her mother but she went in the bedroom against my direction. This angered me because I felt she was being very selfish, and that she didn't obey me.
She went in, got some money and came out. I then told her she was not to go to the carnival since she disobeyed me. She raised her voice "WHY!" and I told her why. So then she went back into her mother room, they talked a bit and she came out saying "Mom wants to talk to you". I went in and she tells me she gave her money and said, despite what I said, that she could go to the carnival with her boyfriend.
This has upset me greatly. Mostly about my wife undermining me and letting her go to the carnival anyway.
I am seeking your advice on how I should handle this situation. I would also like a comment on whether my feelings of embarrassment, humiliation, and just plain anger, are valid or am I going overboard here.
Thank you in advance.
Paul
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