Hi,

This is my first post here and I'm definitely not an expert on any issues so take this for what it's worth. Lately my boyfriend has been opening up to me about how guys "really think" and however sexist it sounds a lot of guys feel "entitled" to sex. If they think they're not getting enough at home or aren't stimulated enough they are going to go elsewhere or at least let their mind wander. TOTAL cop-out on relationships and intimacy but I think with porn being so accessible guys they get these unrealistic expectations about how a woman should act in the bedroom, like we should all be subservient or whatever.

Anyway, this doesn't mean your husband doesn't love you but he definitely has some issues since this is disrupting your relationship together. I don't know about the IM numbers, that sounds suspicious but it probably won't help to confront him - you will just get a dishonest answer or he may turn around on you and make you feel guilty or paranoid.

Not sure the best way to handle this - does he know that you know about the porn or would he feel like you're snooping?