I think a part of what SeptMorn is saying is that if you love someone, there is always a possiblity they will leave and that will hurt.

To the way to protect yourself from hurting is to be careful not to love anyone.

But if you do that, then you never get to love someone.

So there has to be a balance in there somewhere where you don't just go trust everyone willy-nilly, but you do open your heart to some people seeking the benefits of bonding with someone but also acknowledging the risk of having your heart broken. The trick is to minimize the hurt by chosing carefully and also accepting that sometimes, hurt is just a part of life. It isn't necessarily something that can always be avoided, nor even something that should always be avoided.

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-- Dave
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