Hi Elaine,

I love your big signature graphic!

I owned a large, valuable house on a commercial property when I met Him. The 2nd floor was an apartment actually and He was my first tenant.

With the financial instability that goes along with BPD sufferers, we first built up some nice assets.... totally remodeled the big house, acquired 2 rental houses, a work van, a car... other income producing projects going...

but we lost it all... ended up filing Chapter 7 bankruptcy...

moved to a small rental house.... which was fine... at least we were together....

but along with the continued money mismanagement and then His increased acting out....

He just kicked ME out... then we couldn't even rent the little house anymore... so it's been into apartments since then...

back to what your question was about.... from what I've witnessed by watching others in the past.... it doesn't matter who owns the house... it all depends on who calls the police first....

the one who is supposedly causing a scene is the who has to leave... and therapists I talked with years ago, said the cops may very well take the word of a spouse.... claiming that the other spouse is acting nuts and dangerous... when in reality, that one is just sitting there reading a book.....

what a wake-up call, eh?

Just as you finish up chapter 2 of War and Peace, there's a knock at the door, and you get carted away in a white jacket, not even knowing what the heck is going on.

Our laws suck.

Respectfully ~ phoenix