Well, look, I'm a 20-year-old girl, so I don't know anything about parenting

I was actually looking for input from other parents but thank you for your insight.

I replied because I really thought my perspective was relevant to the situation. If you do not believe it is relevant, ignore it by all means. But please ask yourself this: if I had agreed with you and told you you were absolutely right would you have thought my age a problem, or are you only discounting my advice because you do not agree with it? No, I'm not a parent, but all too recently I've been through what your daughter has. How is that irrelevant to the situation?

If I was your daughter, I'd be rather embarrassed: you treated her like a child in front of a boy she wanted to impress. There's a time and a place to tell a teenage girl off, and that time and place is NOT in front of her boyfriend.

I dont see where I embarrassed and treated her like a child. I simply told her she couldn't go to the carnival.

You told her off in front of her boyfriend for disobeying. She's 15, not 6, although this would honestly be embarrassing at any age. From her point of view, it probably seemed petty and honestly, it was. You were angry, so you purposely yelled at her in front of her boyfriend and essentially tried to send her to her room. Maybe a 10-year-old would let you do that, but a 15-year-old would find it mortifying.

she didn't do what you said, but it didn't really hurt anyone.

No, it didn't hurt anyone but the rules of the house are: You listen to what you are told, simple.

So, you're saying your daughter is not allowed to think for herself and make her own decisions about her life? If you're reading this and thinking it's an unfair assessment, it's because it is--but this is how teenage girls think. They want to be independent even though they aren't really old enough yet. They do what they can to break the rules and exert their own independence. Your telling her off in front of a boyfriend would only make that impulse stronger.

Your wife was awake and didn't mind being bothered. So you were "wrong" to give your order in the first place

First, I didn't know she was awake, therefore, I didn't want her to wake her up because she works nights and I wanted her to get her sleep. Second, how exactly am I wrong for telling her not to go into my bedroom to wake up my wife?

Yeah, that's why I put "wrong" in quotation marks. However unfair that is, that's the conclusion most teenage girls would reach: you told your daughter that your wife was asleep and didn't want to be disturbed, and you were wrong. She was awake and didn't care. You weren't necessarily wrong to tell your daughter not to bother your wife, but you were wrong about the situation. From your daughter's point of view, then, your getting pissed off was petty and unwarranted.

Thank you but I was looking for input from other parents. I know you'll hear this again but you will never really feel what it's like to be a parent until you are one.