Been a while since I've written, so I'd better update: My husband is living back in the house, and I told him that I will give him another chance. The full extent of his relationship with the other woman was texting, emailing and talking on the phone a few times a week over a three month period. He chose to befriend a married woman in another state because even he didn't trust himself. He was running away from the problems we were having, I know this, but even though he never slept with her (although I wonder all the time too if I hadn't caught him how far it would have gone), I can't get past the fact that he any sort of relationship with another woman for three months. We haven't been intimate, and just now are starting to hold hands and kiss a little. Even when we have happy days, thoughts of him laughing with her, and sharing things I thought he had only shared with me, creep in. I feel such a heavy sadness.

We are talking about things every day, what happened, why it happened, and he is trying to find a psychologist because he knows that his screwed up past has contributed to his bad behaviors. He's still seeing a thereapist (although he hasn't seen her in a while), but he doesn't feel like she's helping get to the roots of the problem.

My question is this: How do you forget the images of the man who stood up in front of friends and family, and swore to love, honor and respect you, giving himself to another woman? How do you get past the hurt? Sometimes I feel so sad, I just want to run away.

I would love to hear from other woman who have been in my situation. I believe my husband can be the man I thought I married, if he works hard, but I don't know if I'll ever be the same woman I was.

Thanks for listening all.

wounded1