I take it that this was a one night carnival. If not you and your wife could have talked about it and another night could be chosen. I do feel your authority was over ruled and it sounds like your hurt because this isn't the first time this has happened. I do agree that all conversations should be out of ear shot from friends and current partners. I think all of you may want to sit down and make a "rules/consequences" book where all of you agree on set rules and consequences, all of you sign it and so all of you are on the same page. Sorry this happened it seems to happen at the worst times.