(((1982))),
Yes, it sounds as though we have some things in common. They can't change, nor do they have a desire to change. It just is.. as you stated. It's a hard pill to swallow.
I try very hard to NOT think of him. After all it is just a game to them. The illusions they paint of themselves is beyond comprehension.
It is complicated and very hurtful.
There is an expression choose your battles wisely. I no longer wish to participate in the games he presents...
He now "plays" the legal system.
I gave up trying to retrieve the $, after all they NEVER pay. My safety and my sons is the objective.
He has started again..but the days of abuse are over.
Please try and stay strong.
Truth should prevail..however sometimes it does not.
I've tried to focus on myself and rebuilding my life..it's been a long road.