Yes, she knew. I found out after my post that she was in fact, asleep. This carnival was going all week so she had many days left to choose from.

Also, I had said in a calm voice, "<name> I'm sorry, went in the bedroom when I toild you not to, so i'm afraid you can't go to the carnival tonight" That's when she started yelling at me about why she couldn't go, and stormed off back into the bedroom. She came out saying my wife wanted to talk to me, so I went in there and she said she's gonna let her go (knowing I said no and why). By the time I came back out into the front room, they were gone.