This is such a hard thread because all parties are a little bit right and a little bit not so right. If the kid is otherwise well-behaved, gets good grades and otherwise act like a "young adult," then consideration should be given. Both parties should always speak in a respectful matter to each other, but kids will always challenge their parents and this is part of the growing up process (for both kids and parents)...when I was young, I was pretty mature for my age...and my parents treated me accordingly. I wasn't allowed to go crazy and party like a wild animal but I was allowed to engage in well thought out debates with the parents and, if I was able to convince them, through sound logic, of my position, then I usually got what I wanted in that instance. Just because I was a teenager didn't give them carte blanche to determine every instance of my life. Yes, I was "living under their roof" and their final word was the law, but their final word usually came after they heard us out.

It seems like the Mom and Dad in this thread need to get on the same page and then communicate this to Daughter....please talk to her and ask for her input about what happened...