It's probably not just you that has issues with their spouses.

Have you both tried communicating about the issue? Many couples find it hard to do at first because they get angry at what is going on. But if you can, try and get relaxed, get comfortable, be patient, and talk to her.

Try and discuss the issues going on calmly, and hopefully she will be more comfortable and open to you and explain what is going on.

It may help. It may not, I don't know, but it is definitely worth a shot.