Rose- thank you.

Yeah after cooling off from this trigger from them for me, along with the hurt of realization that this is not a family setting that I want to be a part of----- which hurts more than I think anyone may realize due to I had hoped it would be good. but it does come down to my S/O is good to me, and all I can do is do it for return for him. And that our relationship is our relationship and not theirs, and does not involve them.

As I had mention I did text his mom, the only reason was due to they seem to be clueless when things come up as a problem and I felt as if I owed it to them to let them know so they were not totally in the dark- his mom was nice- but I am not sure if she is just doing the thing with "let her hear what she wants to hear" due to she does do that... but it does not matter....

His sister continues (it is getting almost to a point if it was someone else I would say harrassing me due to 4 times I have explained about the dog now, and she just keeps asking and asking only ME by the way of what happened to the dog)--- I can't seem to just "ignore her" for that is what she is doing to me which for me that is another trigger and hurts so bad with the pain with the dog to begin with (don't get attached to things and can't believe people- long story on that but it is a reminder of it)-- Today- with the texts are the LAST time I am explaining and I have asked a 4th time now for my S/O to Please talk with his Sister on this-- I am not sure if she is just being mean or if she is having memory problems (that is not being mean she had a nero thing happen last month which I was finally told about last Sunday-- go figure) so I am keeping my calm with her at this moment.
After this though- I am going to take the advice of the T that I was seeing till last Feb-- No more dealings with his sister for me- we clash too much and the way she is I get triggered by or just disagree with, and just simple Hi and happy holidays to the extent.

I know he can not choose his parents or his family-- and to be honest we never went down every week, or even month to go see his parents-- As I was remembering how many times we have seen them, it is holiday's birthdays and a few times to say hi--- I see him keep his distant too but still love them- which if that is what works for him that is what works with him. He does this with his siter as well-- deal with her by not dealing with her, But the problem with that is her constantly bugging me on something that i have already explained well enough that a 5 year old would understand.

The only thing is, IF (due to he has done this in the past and I say whatever rather if we had plans or not)- If he just decides while we are out to go down to his parents with out talking to me and takes me down there- there will be an uproar Beauflow with him- But I think he understands that this hurt me so much with a lot of things and would rather just be distant.

The thing that I hate with this is that it was a trigger for me-- thoughts of not being able to trust again came out and I just hate that--- logical and emotional collide and they both seem logical.

It is sort of sad that his brother's wife sort of was trying to warn me about this, and I kept saying I don't see it fully but some what..... blah....


Hugs to you Rose- that is horrible for what his kids say- and while you are there with him through the think and thin... that is just wrong....

The only thing I can do with family right now is just make my own with my S/O-- I don't want kids but I have him... and to have one person is better than none..

Hugs to you too Irreplaceable I don't know if you are on mobile and see it... I was hot headed when I replied on this obviously- A trigger that i was unwilling to accept at the time.