I don't know. For me, orgasms are normally "just ok". I wasn't even aware what I was experiencing was an orgasm for a few years after learning about masturbation. It certainly isn't like the "dirty" scenes in romance novels, lol. I have a weird thing where I orgasm from stress or heightened emotions, though. So maybe I am desensitized. But honestly, orgasm doesn't have to be the focus of every sexual encounter. Sometimes I feel that taking the focus off myself and my orgasm, and focusing on his pleasure, and the experience of touching him, makes my orgasms better. That could just be me though....everything is more enjoyable when I'm distracted from myself.....