Porn to men is like your vibrator to you. It is a tool for masturbation. Nothing meaningful. It is just fantasy. Porn isn't real and everyone knows that. Your husband is using it to reach orgasm. It isn't about you or anyone else.

Yes, he understands you're not feeling like having sex lately but, that doesn't mean he doesn't need to get off every once and awhile.

What a man thinks about or views when mastubating is his personal domain. You're his wife but, you don't have rights to tell him not to fantasize nor is it really your business. That's his personal space and you need to respect that. Imagine if he told you what you were or were not allowed to fantasize about!

Sex and love can go together but, are definitely different things. Your husband says he loves you and his looking at pornography does nothing to show otherwise.

It is not right that he's viewing porn at work though. That is highly innappropriate. He needs to stop that.