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the victim's life is destroyed, never to be "fixed".

Is that really true??? Although I have many "issues" and I am no spring chicken, I had hope that someday, somehow things will be different for me...that comment just sounds so defeating... maybe it is good that I don't have all the memories and just move on like i did before knowing things happened to me.......maybe i am off topic... or not thinking clearly .. or just over reacting to a comment....

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Good point radio_flyer; you are not over-reacting . . . a victim's life may or may not be completely destroyed . . . it depends on (1) the type of support the person receives in life and (2) the willingness of the victim to persevere.

. . . as much as i HATE to even mention this . . . i believe i'm a more empathetic and sensitive person (thus a better mom) because of the memories that i have of the many violations my father (pedophile-rapist) did to me at such a young age

. . . i hate the memories; they are forever with me, but i can be a better person and a better mom because i know how it feels to have an authority figure (someone who is supposed to nurture and protect you) maliciously and repeatedly use your body against your will, violating your soul.