I cant decide whether I prefer to date men, or women....

Each kind of relationship brings its own challenges.

Dating women brings a lot of public criticism, mostly the unspoken kind.
Makes for a hostile environment while out anywhere in public... I mean c'mon, why do people have to give me dirty looks for enjoying someone's company in a romantic light? Guys always want to point it out and ask to join in. And people cast me out and I end up feeling pigeon holed into the LGBTQ label.
Personally, I dont like the label.

And of course being with men is a challenge too. I tend to be more assertive than most women. I dont like it when men I am with feel insecure about it and try to show off their balls. Like if something around the house needs to be fixed, here come's the power trip. And the problems just gets way out of hand when they realize they cannot fix (say a broken pipe under the sink). I can fix it easily but the friction and power trip...
Am I explaining that right? Men want women who are not very "manly" and I cannot just sit quietly and let a man take full leadership of the home.
Especially since I like a manly man...Plus after a while I miss women....

So I feel stuck in the middle because I want both.

Does anyone else feel this way and how do you resolve it?