Thanks Pat!!!!! this is a wonderful post... i feel better when i can support someone.. i feel like i can relate to them when they are hurting... I can relate because i have been there.... lending a helping hand is the greatest thing in the world.. when i came here, i was searching and was needing some support. it seemed like everyewhere I looked there was a helping hand. there was someone pulling me up and letting me lean on them.... and from time to time they still let me lean on them and lend their helping hand!!!!!!