My ex always used to call me a mental derelict. He always had plenty to say about what was wrong with me, but never could see his part in causing my depression. Hard having a resident critic at home. Maybe I'm biased but this sounds similar to me. By the way he did call my therapist to discuss what was wrong with me, which was not well received by the therapist. He said "You do realize he is very critcal of you? You realize that don't you?" As a matter of fact it had some how escaped me. After the therapist pointed it out I started to really notice and resist being made to feel bad about myself, which I think was the beginning of the end for us. Better that the marriage should fail, than one of the partners be destroyed.