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'm having trouble communicating with my boyfriend about anything. I always find a way to lie, to hide my emotions.
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Do you mean anything as in ANYTHING- even perhaps what you like and dislike in general-- Or is it more of specifically things that he does?
Emotions I can understand that but then again, I with myself - I tend to fester and eventually they come out- (over years I have learned on not blowing but tactfully bringing it up-- it still working progress) And getting better with the less festering part.... What Leed said
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Are you afraid he'll leave you if you show him that you have 'flaws?"
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is one of my own fears with this; but over 3+ years that Fear has lessened and I am more up and front with things these days due to my boyfriend's support of saying Don't let it fester, Talk to me, Let me know...... He knows a lot of my past, that stuff for me was easy to be honest with about- In away when getting into the relationship I knew my past would prevail problems if I just tried to hid it due to it is stuff I need to work on- Perhaps my whole life... With being honest with him, he was able to be honest with me on some of his stuff (NOT to say that always works) but it did bring us closer- Also down the road from when we frist got together to now-- he has been so understanding with things that I think if I had not been honest with him he may not been so understanding .. just saying..
I feel like I am babbling.... I am not sure even if any of this relates to what you are in.
what are your fears with this could probably help with advice to be given on your dilemma here.
Lenssor-- Taking things slowly with what you are doing I think is a right approach. (BTW Glad to read here you are getting help and helping yourself
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