I would agree with the comments that it is 75% me, 25% T. I definitely feel that if I am not getting out of therapy what I need, I am not working hard enough. If I just "show up" without treating it like a task to complete, nothing substantial will get accomplished. I just see T's role as one of being there to listen, let me express things that maybe I can't tell anyone else, but will also try to push me to think about things and how they are related to everything I suffer with.

I do think this would be a good question to ask our T's though too- would be interesting to see how they respond to where they see the responsibility and burden lying with...