I suspect my T would agree about the 75% client thing, but that is the way he does things. He doesn't mince words with me and has no problem letting me know if I am not "doing the work". He is all about leading me to be empowered and finding autonomy. That takes work.

As a teacher, I see this play out with certain students every semester. There is always that one or two who come to class without their work, absolutely refuse to do the work in class, want to lay their heads down on the desk instead of engaging in the discussions and interaction in class. It is like they shoot themselves in the foot at every possible juncture. I feel for them because until they make the decision to engage and tune in, they are making the choice to not learn, to not pass, and to have to take the class again (which has to be a drag). I can do cartwheels around the room trying to help them, but they have to choose to do the work. I can't do it for them. As a teacher, and I imagine as a therapist, it is painful and frustrating to watch a student/client self-destruct.