It means not only do you now trust your therapist judgement but you also like and respect her as a human being.

Yea keep the problem scenerios as fantasy. theres nothing wrong with that but therapists tend to frown on clients that are creating problems just to see them more. Its in their training to be on the lookout for when clients start becoming overly dependant on them. Therapy is so that the person can learn to function better on their own not for becoming dependant on other people. So when therapists start seeing a client is becoming TOO dependant on them they are supposed to back off and have been known to transfer the client to a different therapist.

Show up on her doorstep? Well that depends on the type of therapist you have and what your relationship for therapy is. When I was with SKR for therapy purposes it was ok for me to stop by to drop off my journals and so on because that was what we were doing for therapy. Im with LL now. show up on her doorstep. She wouldn't be rude but she would definately make sure I knew it wasnt acceptable and she would talk to me during session NOT ON HER DOORSTEP. We have not discussed this exact situation but she has told me that she does not give out her phone numbers, address and emails to clients. she tried that once and she learned by doing that she no longer had time to herself. her down time ended up being worktime and thats not good for a therapist. it burns them out. She needed to leave work at work and home time at home. I do know her phone numbers and so on but my showing up on her doorstep or calling without a REAL emergency would be my abusing that knowledge and her and her boundries too.

One time LL saw me at the public library. She told me at my next session. She didn't know if it was alright to approach me because sometimes people feel uncomfortable having their doctors, teachers, therapists and so on acknowledge them in public (especially if they are with some one) At that time I told her sure its no problem with me. And she said since she now knows its ok with me denpending on what her plans she may or may not say hi to me when we meet up in public like that. If she didn't it wasn't because she was ignoring me. It was because she had things to do and get done and didn't have time to say hi.

The library isn't the only place I could and may run into LL. I know that she sometimes uses the same grocery - department store that I do. She mentioned this when I was telling her some of my friends work there and I frequently visit and have dinner with my friends during their lunch or dinner breaks. I don't wander around my department store looking for LL. Since I know she uses that store I know that there may at some point come a time when we meet up in there.

My friends all know that I am seeing a therapist so it would be no big deal for me and a friend to be having dinner and LL and I acknowledge each other. In fact I would even introduce her to my friends.