I'm happy to hear that your friend's remarks weren't accurate. That ought to be a little morale booster!

Regarding your anxiety about sex and foreplay....I would advise you to go slowly. No need to already be worrying about when and how things will occur between you two. In my personal experience, the kissing is a learned art. It doesn't take long at all to notice what feels comfortable, and what doesn't. Good kissing can be terrific for men and women ~ lasting for hours! IMO, that's the way that it ought to be. Really!

Gentle, soft and slow massaging of each other's bodies usually pops up somewhere with deep kisses. If you aren't ready to take that next level, you'll know that by an instinct to stop kissing and back away. If that kicks in, listen to your body. That's your mind telling you that you aren't ready for this. You aren't comfortable yet, and need to go more slowly.

You can tell your guy to slow things down at that point. Hopefully, he'll listen and won't become a jerk. {Although if he does become a jerk, there's a BIG clue that the relationship isn't going to work for you.} So, slow down until your body does feel comfortable of expressing and receiving affection.

Don't ever push yourself to meet sexual expectations that you are uncomfortable with.