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Jun 01, 2012, 05:20 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~ I AM a recovering alcoholic and I know one thing. You can threaten all you want, but only UNTIL he is ready to stop drinking completely for HIMSELF, will he do it. He has to want it more than ANYTHING else or he won't stop. He can't do it for YOU or anyone else. You can beg, threaten, bargain, cry, etc., and it won't work.  If he doesn't hit his own "bottom" he just isn't going to quit.
I sure hope he does tho, cause he sounds like a decent guy, which is true for MOST alcoholics. Usually they're good, decent, people who just can't handle life on life's terms. They don't know how to live day-to-day. They might be GREAT in a crisis, but it's the everyday stuff that trips them up. At least that was the way it was for me.
I'm GLAD you're getting away from him -- at least I HOPE you are because if you stay with him, you're hurting him -- you're enabling him. By getting away from him, you're making him see what he's doing to himself and making him face his responsibilities. You won't be tripping the land mines anymore for him.
I wish you the best. I hope he quits. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee
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