I have lived in appartments of all kinds and have learned the best way to handle things with unruley neighbors is to first get to know them. for example I once lived in an upstairs appartment and at 3 am music would come blaring. Id wake up hear some stomping and slaming around and the music would shut off after about an hour. So one day I happened to see the neighbors outside on their porch. instead of going up the stairs and into my appartment I took time out to introrduce myself and politely asked them if they were having trouble with any of the neighbors blaring music and stomping around at night. I didn't accuse I just kept it as a general getting to know my neighbors and offer help if I can type attitude. The guy said no but he has been getting a bit rowdy at night as he's getting woke up and ready for work on the split night shift. Since he now knows he is waking the whole house he will try to keep it down to a dull roar. I lived in that appartment with him under me for 2 years. sometimes he would slip up and get rowdy but because I didn't come at him like rambo chic and sicking the manager on him he was more then willing to accept resposibility for his actions.

I now live in a downstairs appartment. From time to time I will get a bath in the middle of the night and find that my ceiling is dripping water. Because this is directly doing damage to my appartment which I would be held resposible for (peeling paint and water stained ceiling) if I did not report the damage at the time it happened I have no choice but to notify the manager. But first I always get dressed and knock on the neighbors door and let them know that I have a water leak in my ceiling so I will be calling the manager and maintence to come and check out the pipes and plumbing to make sure the plumbing inside the walls and ceiling has not sprung a leak. I don't go in rambo chic accusing them for all I know they could be in the middle of a drug deal or other illegal activitys. WhenI notify the manager I dont send accusations against my neighbors when reporting either. I keep it simple - I was taking a bath and noticed a leak in ithe ceiling could someone come check it out.

the same when I am reporting noise when I have no choice. I keep it non accusing and general - call the manager and say there ahs been music and so on going in the complex late at night around such and such a time and I felt I should report it in case someone needs help or others in the complex are having the same problem.

By keeping it general and not accusing even when I know the culprets keeps me safe from the times the reason behind the unruley behavior is illegal and dangerious situations and it also provides for a good relationship with my neighbors. Who knows those unruley neighbors may have to come to my rescue. In fact it was my neighbors that I did not know very well that came to my rescue on many occasions when my child was living at home and when I became dizzy and almost passed out at the mailboxes while checking my mail one day. It was my neighbors many of which I would not normally have associated with and some were the noice makers in the complex that rallied together and provided me with meals and so on when I found out I had cancer and was under going treatment and so on.

If I had come on as rambo chic accusing and reporting and so on each and every neighbor I did not like and had trouble with their behavior I would have missed out alot of help that I needed in some very rough and dangerious times in my life.

Theres a saying - great now I cant word it right but the gist of it is if you want to attract sweets and pleasure its better to use honey instead of vinagar.

Take time to get to know your neighbors and work problems out with them BEFORE letting things escalate to the point where official intervention is needed by the managers and hold the temper and they may just do the same by accepting you as a good neighbor who they value and trust and want to do right by you no matter what.

take care.