Here is how I worked with my molestation. I refused to allow that to define the person that I am. Yes, it happened and I couldn't stop it. BUT, I have total control over how I deal with it and I decided that once I processed it and allowed myself time to grieve, I was moving on.

I've mentioned trust issues with men and I do want to clarify that the majority of that comes from my ex.However, I do believe that had I not had the molestation, I would not have been so vulnerable to being manipulated as I was. However, it's still my life and my responsibility to try and keep moving forward from that. My SO understands all of this and we have no problems concerning trust. I have trouble with committment. Now, I am confusing myself.

BUT, in no way do I feel any sympathy for any adult who does anything morally wrong with a child. Touching, molesting, abusing, raping, on and on. There aren't any excuses for it. I don't care if they rot in jail. What I'm not understanding about all of these "what ifs" is what part of molestation, abuse, rape, murder do you not understand? I don't give a ---- concerning their jail time, their community embarrassment or any of the other deserved crap that falls upon their heads.

This support forum is full of people, men and women, who have been abused and i, for one, wish that we would leave off the support for the pedophiles. This is not a forum about law reform.........this just doesn't feel like the place or time to be playing the devil's advocate for pedophiles. And I'm sticking with that........xoxoxo pat