Nothing I've said to you was meant in any way to be confrontational. It's just the way things are.

I'm with you 100% on going to any pastor! When I was having trouble with my first marriage and in retrospect, my own problems were beginning to show their ugly heads, I also went to at least three ministers. Ha! What a joke! What a denial and ignorance of what the common folk go through! All I got told was "Pray about it!" One "pastor" even told me to buckle down and be a good wife! What that meant was "Shut up, do as you're told and keep this man's house clean and him fed." Never mind that he physically abused our daughter and son, he had raped me, controlled every single move I made and to boot, showed many signs of schizophrenia! Did they recognize it? No! I was just supposed to do as I was told, no matter what that was!

I suggest you look elsewhere for your help and support for yourself. You're not going to find it in church. There is help for you, like there is for everybody. You just have to find the right person or group of persons to help you, like anyone else does. Like I said, my male cousin who happens to be a minister, found help for himself outside the church. You can, too. For me personally, it isn't a matter of color or not, gender or not. There is help to be had whether you are male or female; pink, orange, brown, black or yellow.

<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>