NinaNina,

Coming from a family of alcoholics and users, I definitely agree with Leed.

It is great that you're stepping away from the alcoholic, you have to do that for yourself and for him. If everyone is willing to keep enabling your bf to drink, there's no motivation to stop. Even when everyone who cares for the alcoholic stands together, unites, to get the drinker to wake up to the effects of their drinking, it often isn't enough. Those people need to keep standing strong in their decision to stop enabling the alcoholic. It isn't easy to stand strong, but it is necessary. The decision to stop drinking lies in the head of only the alcoholic.

Hopefully, your bf will soon decide that he doesn't want to drink anymore. But, that is a decision that he's going to have to make. I wish you the best. I hope that your bf finds the motivation and resilience to quit drinking soon.

Very best wishes and hugs to you!