Warning: May or may not be to much information in parts, so please be aware.

I recently posted a dream in the dream interpretation forum describing how in the dream instead of having sexual urges for a male (as is my usual) this time it was a female, and I remember saying in the dream that "I must be bisexual then."

Well, even if the dream was just some annoying way of saying something not so blunt or straightforward, it sparked the discussion in my head about my sexual orientation. This isn't the first time I thought about it, and I'm sure everyone has thought about their own sexual orientation in the past.

Througout highschool I questioned myself, questioned who I was really attracted to. I had not clue. So I decided then that i must be straight and just haven't seen or met the right person. Then for a period I thought I was asexual (friend thought I was too LOL, she didn't tell me that until recently though). I thought asexual because I never really tried for relationships and was a lot more interested in personality than looks (this is also the argument I used in highschool to consider bisexual).

However, I did have interest in males, but enjoyed my time a heck of a lot better with females. I do find both male and female bodies and personalities fascinating (but I still prefer personality).

I've tried a few relationships with guys, they always went sour (most recent being a little harder considering it was a guy I had a crush on and who had a crush on me). I always open up more with and get along better with females.

I"m not certain of my sexual orientation, I can look at both and like their looks, what they can offer, their personalities. I don't know if I"m straight, bisexual, or asexual.

How did anyone here determine what their sexual orientation is? If you can help me find the right questions to ask and think about, please do. I"m so uncertain. I tried something where instead of thinking of males during "arousal" I thought of females, it was the same outcome as always, but I don't know if that really determines anything.