hey. i don't think you are being daft. i think it is natural for people to try and understand themself by trying to relate to other people. relating to dx's is a way of relating to other people in the sense that... enough people would meet the criteria in order for it to count as a dx and all... so one thing it can help us to is to feel less alone. but there can (and indeed typically is) considerable variation in the symptoms that people meet. for some dx's there is more variation in the symptoms that people have within a dx criteria than there is in the symptoms that people have across different dx criteria. while people are working at it... psychiatric classification doesn't 'carve nature at its joints' the way that biological or even medical taxonomy does. to a very large extent... the current dx classification system is fairly arbitrary and fairly controversial and is fairly much... social convention (that enables people to get treatment etc and builds psychiatry and indeed psychology up as a 'real science' just like medicine - so to speak). IMO talking to people... other people who can relate to different aspects of what you are saying can be more helpful than identifying yourself with a group of people solely on the basis of dx.

invasive... yeah, that feeling is no fun. no fun at all :-(
i don't think anybody likes to feel invaded :-(
and contamination... nobody likes to feel contaminated either :-(
i think some people can have a fairly bad reaction to sex if they have had unplesant sexual encounters. ones that left them feeling invaded and contaminated, for example. and surgery... surgery (if experienced as invasive and / or painful) if linked to sex in some way... well that could make sex seem pretty bad too...

i think that if you have had mostly negative experiences around sex then it would be understandable that you aren't so keen on the idea. i guess... if it isn't a problem in your life then... it isn't a problem. if... later on... you meet someone and it does become a problem then it sounds like therapy might help with that. there are things you can do to try and counter-balance the negative associations with more positive associations. or that might happen in time anyway as you get some distance from the negative connotations.

i'm not really getting at anything in terms of mania. i was just talking a lot about how the only symptoms (or things) that are problematic are things you consider to be problematic... but there can be exceptions to that... i was trying to allow for the exceptions is all.

i mean... a person might think that it is not problematic at all if they really wanted to kill someone...
or a person might think that it is not problematic at all if they didn't want to leave the house 'cause the voices told them not to...
or a person might think that it is not problematic at all if they wanted to invest all their money in a poker game...
or a person might think that it is not problematic at all if they wanted to go out drinking all night every night...

but those things might well be problematic in the sense that their lives would be better off if those things were resolved. i didn't mean to assume at all that you did (or might have) issues like that... i just meant to qualify my statement about the only things that are problematic are the things that the person presenting for treatemtn considered problematic. there can be exceptions. that is all i meant to do there was to qualify my statement. in those cases sometimes family members or clinician's need to make the judgement that the person's life would be better off if those symptoms were attended to even if the person doen'st recognise those things as a problem...

though that is controversial... the degree of paternalism (clinician knows best) that is appropriate in patient / client relationships. i don't like paternalism in general, i just wanted to acknowledge that there could be some exceptions is all. didn't mean to imply anything about you in particulalr.