hi inkblot i was a little too tired last night to compose my thoughts and i was afraid to say the wrong thing since i don't really know the situation.

that's why i didn't just want to say "tell them" because i don't know if there are other possible consequenses involved with other people. I do want to encourage you to tell them. maybe write it down like others have suggested.

What i do want to say is the good thing is that it seems that these people all have your best interests at heart and are willing to work together rather than treating each person in a vaccuum. so i don't know if your reluctance is because of specific information that needs to be private or if you were just embarrassed because of the way things went. but if it is that just remember that these people want to help and they will understand, so there should no reason to be embarrassed. plus it was based on an honest mistake so anyone shoukl be able to understand that.

i hope i'm not way off base but i just wanted to let you know again that there are people here who care and hope that things work out well for you and for your family. there's a lot to worry about but if you can tap into some energy for comfort once in a while i hope that will help.

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-- Dave
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